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Okay..this needs illustrations to guide the reader into the fantastical mythological (we'd like to wish it was!) mindset one needs to get into because so many people need this information. Revealing and colorful, this is a primer awaiting the shelves of every library. I know! 💡 Someone should start a Mama Bear Story Hour all over the world to rival the Drag Queen Story Hour!! 😉 Only it's for parents!

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Thanks Joey for the input. That is a great idea!

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Thank you for sharing this with me. It seems we have similar analysis of what's happening with our girls. I certainly see the parallels with Defining "Trans"! This is a heart-tugging story that sends chills of dread through the reader who "sees the monster" or who has been initiated to the "Upside Down". I have a rather controversial approach now that was beginning to emerge when I wrote Defining "Trans". If you're interested to learn more, I'd encourage you to read some of my more recent pieces. I wish the best for you and your daughter! Keep "guiding her to womanhood" and holding "her hand firmly with all the love in my mommy heart" though maybe not too firmly... ;)

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I just read you new article yesterday. It hit home with me! I think you have struck on idea that is doable. To let go just enough to where they know we will always be their safe place to land. To start living our lives to be the guide of what a strong mom is. I have gone deeper into my commitment to Buddhism. I also have done the same with my yoga. I am so fortunate to finally be the saying" when the student is ready, the teacher will appear." I am redifining myself after 18 years of giving up a career to be a stay at home mommy and 9 years of that being a home school mom. The question now is " Who am I." I recently told her when we had another big fight. I am grateful for a few things Trans has given me. It woke me up and back to my feminism. It has given me 2 amazing women in my life who have been in this mess for a long time. One a mom who has been in it for 5 years whose son finally at 19 has chosen his male self. The other a prominent Lesbian with decades of fighting for gay rights behind her. They both guide me. Then the new acquaintances that have and are crossing my path. My passion for safeguarding children and women's sex based rights. My only wish for my daughter is she remains whole and choses one self acceptance of being female. I used to hide who I was when I started this journey. Now I don't. That is huge! I am learning to hold her hand a little less firmly and let some things go. This last week was a huge blow from the school refusing to meet with me to discuss her using a male name and pronouns at school. The ball unfortunately is in my minors court.

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Sep 11, 2022Liked by Mother's Roar Lydia

I'm so glad the article hit home! My theory is if we change the goal, it might enable them to change theirs. Even if it doesn't, it feels better to operate from here and get back to Life--for some of us, we're getting back to a better life because of the work we've had to do to "let go."

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Thank you 🌺

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Words escape me. I'm glad they didn't escape you... wow. :- ) Good on you, Mama.

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Thank you for taking the time to read my words.

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