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Martha Cone's avatar

I stand with you, as a parent and as a gender critical lesbian. I was a called a tomboy growing up in the fifties. If my parents had rushed me into “affirmative” care, I would probably not be a mother and grandmother. I was briefly enchanted in the early 2000’s by the attraction of male privilege. My next thought was “it’ll kill my mother”. She lived to be 100! My disenchantment with the trans ideology grew as I thought about it more. A generation of gay kids is being harmed, and their parents are being put in an impossible situation. It’s hard enough to go through puberty, for the child or the parents, without the estrangement brought on by this type of social and medical interference. You are brave to speak out!

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

Good for you for thinking about your mom! I think generally, when we think about our parents, we end up doing what is right for ourselves as well. Why don't most of our children stop and think "It'll kill my mother"? Because it does kill us.

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Anne Bonnys Kat's avatar

What a moving essay. You have a whole army of women on twitter and mums net who care for your children, you and other parents. Solidarity ✊❤️

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Thank you!🧘‍♀️🙏❤️

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Carrie D. Mendoza, MD's avatar

I care deeply. I worked through the opioid crisis and spoke out to try to change policy in the hospital. My small victory was getting the hospital to put a sign at the ER triage saying "no refills of opioids and benzos." There was little support for physicians raising concerns for the rising tide of human suffering- lives lost to addiction, unnecessary surgeries (mostly on women for chronic abdominal pain), drug diversion, overdoses. The government tied reimbursements to "good pain scale scores". but many good doctors didn't sacrifice patients for bonuses. Unfortunately, many did. We are now in the midst of another medical contagion destroying lives. I am working to help stop this.

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Laura Wiley Haynes's avatar

The heartache is so enormous when i try to imagine my way into being the parent of a trans-identified child being affirmed everywhere else. It's agony to contemplate. Sending you courage and fortitude.

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Thank you!

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joey brite's avatar

I am proud to stand with you in this fight and proud that you made the effort to be brave and join in to hold your sign and speak to strangers for a few hours in front of The Summit of the Americas this past summer. Thank you for being you 😉

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Thank you beautiful strong spirited woman for your friendship and guidance!

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PRStein's avatar

Mother of 14 year old gender confused daughter, I stand with you. In the beginning I was told by an ROGD parent that it would be a long slog. This is true. The end of this miserable journey does not feel imminent and I am currently hated now by my daughter for not giving her cross-hormones, but I am coming into this fight just as many are starting to wake up so I am feeling the support around me. We will stand together. We will crack this thing wide open. The truth is being released and the voices on our side are united and getting louder with each passing day.

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Sending you love and hope.

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PRStein's avatar

Thank you!

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Mrs Miller's avatar

I stand with you, and wish I'd been there under that old tree that day. I have experienced everything you describe. ✊🏼

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Where do you live? I am in Los Angeles.

https://www.parentsofrogdkids.com/support-groups

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Mrs Miller's avatar

Philly. Thank you for the link!

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Lisa Salamone Coaching's avatar

And you are doing YOUR part by caring and speaking up for the parents!! It really is the sane, gender critical ones who are able to show up and lift up one another. I am a parent who’s changed my profession to support moms in our shared journey.

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Thank you for caring! It means a lot!❤️

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Jennifer's avatar

I would like to know where to actually contact a group of mothers. I have not really found anything in looking for a year. Some of that time I wasn't looking because I had falsely believe my daughter had desisted.

I am in the hell of this which is a reality that everyday I wake up to and cannot believe is real. Gender ideology came for my possible autistic *now we are thinking it must be that-daughter during the pandemic at college. Of course it's ROGD. Of course she cut off contact when we wouldn't affirm. Please help. And yes I know of Genspect and there are detrans groups. I haven't even found an online forum. I don't really have any interest in going to protests. If I had my daughter back then I would feel comfortable with that. I too have found comfort from the detrans folks on Twitter. Their bravery and amazing honesty is all that keeps me going. I think of them as my kids too.

Thank you for any group that you can point me to.

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Martha Cone's avatar

My heart goes out to you.

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

Thanks for caring!

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

https://www.parentsofrogdkids.com/support-groups

Thank you for sharing your journey.Sending you love and hope.

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bananas's avatar

I was wondering same…how the heck does one find actual people in a support group that believe the way we do? There has to be a way to organize this.

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Harlow's avatar

I stand with you too! My son announced he was transgender female at age 15. He's almost 17 and started to socially transition two months ago. He's strongly pushing the idea of HRT. I've scheduled a consult on January 11th with the gender clinic here. I'm going in there with LOTs of questions and push-back. I don't think my loving son will feel loving towards me after we discuss the visit, as I'm not going to allow him to take hormones. Although, sadly, I feel he will do so on his own once he turns 18. He has a history of ADHD, generalized anxiety and depression. I've begged his therapist to dive deep into other reasons for his intense anxiety and depression- aside from the constant proclamation of gender dysphoria being the sole underlying reason. I'm a medical practitioner and this whole situation is maddening.

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Mother's Roar Lydia's avatar

If possible. Talk with him about waiting to make any decision until 25. Tell he needs time to grow mentally. The doctors are also muzzled by laws and malpractice. It so horrible the don't see our kids have other issues. That they have been sold a lie.

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